Many young people are unable or struggling to access the peer and community support they might regularly rely on. Social distancing and the closure of schools and other youth spaces has also increased isolation and potentially exacerbated abusive or harmful relationship interactions. If you or a friend are worried about or experiencing dating violence or abuse from a partner, this list offers a number of ways to connect with support via text, chats, phone, or even some strategies to plan for your own safety.
Teen Dating Violence Health Resource List
Day One’s confidential helpline & text lines are managed by trained social service staff, who can offer supportive services like safety planning & risk assessments; services can also include referrals to legal support and counseling. Day One’s confidential helpline and text lines are managed live between Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm. Outside of those hours, Day One is committed to offering support and responses within 24/48 hrs of receiving requests for support (ie. evenings/weekends & holidays) Helpline: 800.214.4150 Text Line: 646.535.DAY1 (3291)
If you are a victim of domestic violence, The National Domestic Violence Hotline allows you to speak confidentially with trained advocates online or by the phone, which they recommend for those who think their online activity is being monitored by their abuser (800-799-7233). They can help survivors develop a plan to achieve safety for themselves and their children.
Safe Horizon’s hotline offers crisis counseling, safety planning, and assistance finding shelters 1(800) 621-HOPE (4673). It also has a chat feature where you can reach out for help from a computer or phone confidentially.
Survivors can also call the New York City Anti-Violence Project’s 24/7 English/Spanish hotline at 212-714-1141 and get support. If calling is not safe but email is possible, make a report at avp.org/get-help and leave safe contact information, and someone will reach out.
Suicide Lifeline: If you or someone you know may be struggling with suicidal thoughts you can call the U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255) any time of day or night or chat online.
Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7, confidential support via text message to people in crisis when they dial 741741.
For people who identify as LGBTQ, if you or someone you know is feeling hopeless or suicidal, you can also contact The Trevor Project’s TrevorLifeline 24/7/365 at 1-866-488-7386.
RAINN:Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. When you call 800.656.HOPE (4673), you’ll be routed to a local RAINN affiliate organization based on the first six digits of your phone number. Cell phone callers have the option to enter the ZIP code of their current location to more accurately locate the nearest sexual assault service provider.
Step by Step Planning for Keeping Safe: Safety during a violent incident and Preparing to Leave
In order to increase safety, a survivor of dating violence may use a variety of strategies. I can use some of the following strategies:
A. If I decide to leave, I will ______________________________________________________. (Practice how to get out safely. What doors, windows, elevators, stairwells, or fire escapes would you use?)
B. I can keep my bag and metrocard ready and put them (location) ___________________ _________________ in order to leave quickly.
C. I can tell _____________________________ about the violence and request that they call the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from my house.
D. If I have to leave my home, I will go to _________________________________________. (Decide this even if you don’t think there will be a next time.)
E. When I expect we’re going to have an argument, I’ll try to move to a place that is low risk, such as __________________________________. (Try to avoid arguments in the bathroom, garage, kitchen, near weapons, or in rooms without access to an outside door.)
F. I will use my judgment and intuition. If the situation is very serious, I can give my partner what they want to calm them down. I have to protect myself until I can actually leave the apartment/space.